Dealing with grief over the holidays

We all grieve in different ways and you may need to let them know about your feelings or worries. 

Perhaps light a candle or raise a toast; listen to their favourite music or read a poem. It can be daunting, but don't be afraid about bringing them up, or worry about someone else bringing them up.

Family and friends might be frightened of upsetting you, so you can let them know it's healthy, normal and helpful for you to share memories.

People can feel guilty about having fun with friends and family, but there is no expectation for you to be sad all the time. We all grieve, remember and celebrate life in different ways.

Explain to friends and family that you might need to change your plans at the last minute. Grief can come in waves and it's good to have a safety net, and not feel like you're letting anyone down.

If you are spending time with others, let them know that you might also like some time alone. And likewise, if you are spending Christmas on your own, you can try to find out what is happening locally – many community groups meet throughout the Christmas period.

Important seasonal holidays are just another day - so let your self-compassion replace self-criticism as you balance grief with holiday enjoyment.

Of course, we know that everyone is different so some may work for you, and some may not. But it's important to remember that it is both healthy and normal to grieve, and remember those we have lost.